Dear Friends, This is my first post in this blog.Sorry for typing in English as my mobile is not convenient to type in tamil. Can you guys recall the occasion of your life when you realised yourself completely as gay?As read in our friend Vijay's stories we might have got chances to have sex with other men.But that doest mean that one is gay. It is the incident when you really needed love, emotional attachment , support and everything from a male.Lets share our experiences about that incident in a nutshell. Awaiting your responses!
In my opinion, One cannot identify himself as gay over a night and wake up saying "oh God! I am gay!" ( Or may be, "Wow man! I am gay"). It takes a long period of confusion, self evaluation and much more. As for me, I had my first such sexual encounter even before I knew the word gay. I didn't realize why I was doing that then. After a long period of confusion and self examining, I came to a decision that I could be gay. Not a confident " Yes. I am gay" type result. Because that was a very hard thing to accept. I even did experiments with my mind, and it took nearly an year for me to accept the truth that I am gay. And as I hope, this confusion and fear is a common attribute for any gay man in our society.
Thanks for your reply Arvin.I totally agree with you since I had the same confusion and dilemma to understand my sexual identity. Though there are confusions, at one point in time we would have definitely realised ourself as gay and thats the reason we all are here looking for gay friends.The intention of this question is to retrospect and bring out such incident in our life when we identified ourself completely as gay.
Hi badguy..! Nice topic to do reply..! Thanks for it..! And for me this is not an year job to find my self as a gay..! I didn't even know is there's a word as 'gay' and it's meaning till i entered to this internet world..! On my school days i always like to be a friend with all but get more close to the boys..! I really felt ashamed about my self then..! And slowly i'd afraid that i'm not a guy..! But later i realised and strongly beleived that i'm a guy..! Even i'd more affection towards my same gender..! Finally i like to find what type of this feeling might be..! With the help of internet i find out the word 'gay' with it's meaning..! After 6 years i got an final answer for my quest..! But it takes an year extra to find out my position in a gay life..!
Hey guys..i m new to this site.... and for all...dont mistake me for saying this...gay people know tat what they are,,,so according to me there s no need for doing such experimental things...coz i m a gay..and i came to known my 8th class itself...so its not a sin though....living our life with our own thoughts may be good fr us...but in deep we should think about our beloved parents...we cant ruin our life by thinking ourself like gay s a sin and not gud and all....same sex is a world full things...soon we all get gud partner....live ur life happily with all ur lovable parents and frns.....tada.........................Dont mistake me if hurt anybodys sweet little heart....